“My Mum Has Told Me Never To Settle With A Woman Who Is Not Working” – Singer Chike Opens Up On Mother’s Marriage Advice

Popular Nigerian singer and songwriter **Chike** (Chike Ezekpeazu Osebuka) has shared the strong personal advice his mother gave him regarding choosing a life partner, emphasising the importance of a woman who is productive and has her own source of livelihood.

Speaking in a recent episode of the *Ada’s Room Podcast*, the “If You No Love Me” hitmaker revealed that his mother has consistently warned him against settling down with a woman who is not working or adding value, regardless of how strong the feelings may be.

“I think everybody should look for a partner that adds value. Personally, my mum advised me never to settle down with a woman who doesn’t have a source of livelihood regardless of love,” Chike stated.

He further explained his mother’s reasoning: “She said no matter how the love is doing me, I should never do it. If they are not productively adding to production then don’t do it.”

Chike also touched on family dynamics, using the example of a firstborn daughter (Ada) in an Igbo family who may carry heavy responsibilities for her relatives.

“Imagine you want to marry an Ada that she is the one taking care of her family and she is not all productive then you have inherited the whole family,” he added. “That’s why I ask how many siblings a girl has, what does her family do… because truth be told, you don’t want a moment your babe will be like ‘please borrow me money I want to help my brother.’ That is a lot.”

The 33-year-old artist stressed that the advice stems from a desire for mutual contribution and long-term stability in marriage, rather than one-sided financial or emotional burdens.

Chike’s comments have sparked widespread reactions across social media since the podcast clip surfaced, with many Nigerians debating the role of financial independence and family responsibilities in modern relationships.

The singer, known for his soulful sound and hits like “Amen”, “Spell”, and “Out of Love”, continues to focus on his music career while keeping his personal life private.

**Statement from Chike:**

“I respect and value the wisdom my mother has shared with me over the years. In life and in marriage, I believe everyone deserves a partner who brings something positive to the table.”